What would you think if I told you that before we got married we went to a therapist while we were living together. She said that we were two different people with 2 different ways of thinking and we had a fear of intimacy-that's why we fight. It got better for awhile and we got married and it got worse. That's why I'm not sure it's even worth it to go back to counseling. Thank you for all of your advice-I really appreciate it.