What came first, the chicken or the egg, lol. I don't know why I find attractive what I find attractive.

We haven't addressed the other part of the original question, the question of "how do you know before you've experienced intimacy"

I think this is a good question. I think before I was ever intimate, I was attracted to men because I'm a woman and thats "the norm" or whatever. But I remember seeing KD Lang performing on tv, and found myself attracted to her. I told my mom. This was before I was ever intimate with anyone. My mom was very understanding, and thats when she explained to me about homosexuality. Luckily, my parents were both accepting of whatever I chose. My first intimate experience was with a guy. I have yet to have a real intimate experience with a woman, so I don't know, because I haven't experienced it.