Hi PinkButterfly... My T and I discuss these types of things too. For me... I have had (and to some extent still do ) doubts about who I am to Christ... For me its a struggle between what the Bible says (that we are loved, precious, sons and daughters,etc) vs. The messages I received from my family...(worthless, expendable)

I too have found it helpful when my T shared his struggles...not because it really gave me answers but it helped me see that others struggle too... A relationship with Christ is personal and every person will experience it differently... Just like with other relationships...(although The promises in the Bible are the same..

So for me the more I struggle and wrestle with God about lots of things the more secure I am in that identity...