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Old Apr 02, 2014, 06:08 AM
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Whoa Amelia, I don't think she intended any of this. I don't wanna speak for her but to me it just seems like she wanted to share a positive story on how they got together for a movie. I think all of us have acknowledged the possible harm and that it could and probably will go terribly wrong in most situations. However it is possible to remain in touch and attend a social outing with an ex-T without actually calling it a "friendship". It's a special kind of relationship, with its own entity.
It didn't, in any way possible, seem like she was trying to rub it in for all of her ex-T's clients who don't get to see a movie with her.
So the context seems to be that every therapeutic relationship is different and unique and that's okay - as long as it is comfortable for both parties.
You and your T have a very unique relationship. I mean, she gave you a therapy jar! That is so awesome, but maybe not the most ethical of things to do? What about all of her other clients who didn't receive a therapy jar? Also many people would not be able to handle surprises/gifts like that, as it may warp their perception of the relationship in an unhealthy way.

So you are right, there are always exceptions to the rules...But to me it seems those comments may have only suggested that people sometimes take these rules to a very serious level of reality instead of realizing there ARE exceptions and it can work sometimes. I'm not sure if she implied it will work for everyone.

Again, I'm really not wanting to talk for GTGT nor do I want to cause conflict/tension. I noticed one of the only times I feel heated on this forum is when people post their stories, positive or negative, and get slammed or corrected for doing so. It creates an unsafe posting environment. I only know this because I have felt it before and it's not a great feeling. Maybe that's why it strikes a nerve? I'm not sure...but the only person who could put a post/thread into "context" is the person who posted it.
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