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Originally Posted by Amelia112
Oh, I wasn't actually attacking - just putting things into perspective - especially because of her post about how many on here find that post-therapy friendships damaging, unethical etc. And in another thread she said "It's not a big deal" - which means for her it's not a big deal but for A LOT of others it is indeed a big deal. And I just think it's important to really see both sides of this. I didn't slam anything in my opinion. But when people post their stories, it is a very subjective experience and it can not be made a broad assumption that it is the same for all. I think it's really great that goingtogetthere is friends with her ex-T. My issue is not with that AT ALL. It's with the notion that this is normal (which it really isn't). So there is no judgment here that I thing GTGT should not be friends with her Ex-T. If it works, I am really happy! But the reality is, that this is a topic that is VERY difficult for MANY and I put my perspective on this. I love GTGT!
And by the way, my therapist gives all clients a therapy jar for their birthdays :-) So I wasn't that special..
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That's very sweet of your therapist to do that for her clients. But this is an example of how things can be interpreted differently by each individual. Your thread made it seem like this was something special she did for you, only because you didn't mention the other clients. No one made any adjustments to the context of your story. It is what it is.
Also she sent it to your home, so it did appear to be a selective, "exception to the rules" type of situation. Again, because it was not stated that she sends it to all of her clients' homes on their birthdays.
I would be weirded out to see a package at my door from my Therapist. I think even a card in the mail would make me feel this way. I would wonder why she couldn't just wait until our next session to give it to me. However I am able to separate what makes me feel uncomfortable from what others deem uncomfortable. You seemed amused, happy, and fine with it so I was naturally happy for you. It's not my place to step in and say otherwise, unless you ask for opinions or mention it made you feel awkward.