</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I'm sorry, Talulah, but all sorts of alarms go off in my head when I read that. What you wrote makes it sound like your T only wants to help people with no symptoms.
Sheesh, what are therapists for? Aren't they supposed to try to help people who are feeling depressed or sad or out of sorts?
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I felt the same about this so thank you for reminding me as I need to say this to her! We need to be getting at the core of these types of feelings and emotions. I will "test" her in that regard and see what road she takes before I decide what we will do together.
In my long explanation, I stated that she made me feel that my emotions/feelings have been invalidated by her. Yea I cried harder at this point, became petulant and closed off....
</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">When T's have difficulties knowing what to do next in therapy or how to proceed with a challenging client, their typical course of action is supposed to be to consult a mentor therapist, or at least a respected peer colleague. Has your T consulted anyone for advice on how to proceed with you since she admits she is "stuck"?
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I know she sees my pdoc and I've signed off on her ability to discuss my case with him. I think he's very good and I hope she is consulting with him. When I ask her what they've talked about regarding me she says only med stuff. I think I may call him and tell HIM I'm stuck with HER! I will also inquire as to whether she seeks guidance when encountering problems with clients. That would make me feel better.
</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I wonder if your tears signal you are mourning the absence of a therapist who "gets you" and can help? (sorry for the interpretation...)
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Yea, I think it was part of the problem, my connection was lost.......I was so sad....
I think she skims my emails and that's another reason i get upset, as that is my way of reaching out and telling her what I want to say and what I want to talk about, and where I'm hurting most. But I'm nerbous about giving her this long list in person so I dunno what I'm gonna do, but at the top of the email (i haven't sent yet) I said I wanted her to read it carefully and thoroughly. I also said we may no longer be a good "fit".
</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Ya know, I think the therapy relationship is like any other. At one point in our lives, it may be just the ticket, but we grow and develop new needs and areas to work on, and we may outgrow the relationship or have new needs that need a fresh partner and approach. Talulah, could you have outgrown your T and be ready to move on to someone else?
sunny
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I very well could have outgrown her or may be sabotaging this relationship like I do others, that is why I'm struggling so much with what to do.....