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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
Then you shouldn't be with that person, in the first place. If you question someone so easily about their motives like that, that's your own trust issue. Males and females are indeed capable of being friends without any romance or sex involved and, although she doesn't mention it, it sounds like a trip that was for a purpose. Why are people so quick to assume that there is something more to it?
And don't get me wrong, I'm not naive. I've been through 2 marriages and been cheated on myself both times. So I know it does happen and there are many that do this. But to not believe someone from the get go, for me says more about me than their integrity.
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If I had been on four dates with someone and talked with that person long distance for a month, I don't know that I'd consider myself "with that person" in the first place. This may be a cultural difference; I live in a large metropolitan area where dating multiple people at once until things get quite serious with one of them is very common. Perhaps even the norm. (Though I should note that I don't participate in this culture of sorts myself. I'm more of a settle-down type than a dating type.)
I'm well aware that cross-gender platonic friendships are possible. I have them myself, and so have my significant others. I have never been cheated on, nor have I cheated on anyone, and I have always trusted my partners in this regard. But yes, if I had such a brief acquaintance with a new dating partner, we had not fully committed to a relationship, and he told me he was going on a trip with another woman, I would assume that something was up. To me, going for coffee or dinner with someone is one thing, but going on a trip is another.