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Originally Posted by kawaiigurl1981
"But to not believe someone from the get go, for me says more about me than their integrity."
I would think that their level of trust and past experience is more in question than their personal integrity. Once you have been hurt so many times you come to expect it. I am not necessarily speaking on a conscious level I mean that we have all built up odd reactions and defense mechanisms as a result of our past experiences. To live a happy and productive life I believe that it is vital that we identify and work around these issues.
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Of course we hve reactions to things based on experience and depending on who we are. I'm not saying that she had NO reason to question but that she was pretty abrupt in choosing to go off with another person, and even if it wasn't cheating since they were not a couple, it says a lot about how impulsive she is. Does he want to get into a relationship with someone that is so impulsive? Also she sounds like she used sex with this "friend" to sooth her pain, that's also not a good sign. What if their relationship is rocky for a bit, will she also use sex as a pain killer?