From what you write, there is really not much to salvage. There is no respect or even trust. I almost sensed that for you counseling was an alternative to splitting up the house. Give it a whirl with the counselor, but it seems like a mighty long time to be repeating this behavior. Just don't expect too much too soon. I can understand what the therapist meant when she said you were too different to be with each other. There are many ways in which you are not compatible, can you think of ways in which you are compatible? emotionally, physically, fiscally, character-wise....get my point. What is your idea of a dream guy and how far off is he? Do you have any doubt that you could meet someone better for you than your husband? Good luck with counseling. Sesquix