Yes, being saved is a common background theme in my mind and though I might rationally know it's bollocks, especially after several decades of knights in shining armour doing a big bunk, I know I still harbour this bottom line belief that T will somehow in some magical unknown to me way do something that is going to make me feel really good about myself. Reflect me as likeable maybe? (I could think of a dozen different things he could do that would effect what I need, and I tell him so too, but he seems determined not to take any of my suggestions on board - the roll eyes is only half ironic, it makes me angry that he won't do the things I know will help me.)

As for talking to him about it, yeah I think I'm doing that all the time, sometimes without realizing it but mostly in a pretty aware way. But I haven't talked about it as a discrete concept with a label. And I don't really consider it a fantasy either so he wouldn't get that as a means of dismissing my needs by calling them unrealistic or a fantasy...

Is it really a fantasy? Is it really unattainable? Maybe in its pure imagined form, but elements of it surely must be real. Don't you think?