I think that the reason that women can appreciate other women IS because of the way that the media advertizes things. We are constantly being shown that the way women look is of absolute importance. In fact, i think that when women put make up on, or get dressed up, it is not only for themself, or to appear attractive to men, but it is also for other women as well. We are in constant competetion with each other whether we want to acknowledge it or not. I'm not necessarily saying its a bad thing at all, but I think that it definitely adds to the way that women are able to appreciate how each other looks. Maybe it is an envy thing, or maybe its just the way that our culture works, but in my opinion, it is quite normal for women to take notice of how other women look without there being an underlying message of sexual attractiveness towards them.

So to address the question of how do you know if you are bi or lesbian? It really depends on the person, and how you interpret these feelings. Just because you find another women attractive doesn't necessarily mean your attracted to them.