View Single Post
 
Old Apr 02, 2014, 01:57 PM
kawaiigurl1981 kawaiigurl1981 is offline
Member
 
Member Since: Mar 2014
Location: United States
Posts: 85
Quote:
Originally Posted by bwebb View Post
I have a few questions. First, am I understanding this correctly that you are dating a married man? I am not judging you at all, just making sure I understand the situation correctly. How do YOU know that his wife is soon to be an ex-wife? What evidence do you have of this? I know lots of people going through divorces right now and very few of them want to reside together. BUT I can understand the financial part, it is not easy to pay to live on your own. So if he were to live with you, would you charge him rent? I mean if he wanted to get out of his house and separate from his wife, could he live with you for free? I am just trying to understand why he is still living with a woman he says he doesn't love when he could be living with you. How do you know they sleep in separate rooms? Does his wife know about you? I honestly think that if he is not divorced or even physically separated from his current wife, than you can't really be fully committed on your end either. I don't know, maybe I am wrong, but it seems like it would be very difficult to give all of yourself to someone with marital commitments. I think you are right to not feel entirely safe and trusting in him.

I appreciate your concerns but I trust him because I trust him. He has no reason to lie to me and would not lie to me. He is trying to figure out custody of children and other issues. Of course he could live with me rent free. I am not sure where you are from but where I live we have very archaic divorce laws with money already being an issue he does not want to have to pay spousal support and if he moved in with me and divorced his wife that is most likely what would happen. As I mentioned my trust issues are not isolated only to him. The point is I want to trust him, fully, that is the choice I am trying to make but I lack follow through and that is the issue that I would like to resolve for myself.