IG thanks for your sympathy and interest

Here's the actual instance which flipped me into a more constant state of hostility at T. He arranged for us to do a particular project together for a following session, but when I turned up all ready to do it, found that he'd forgotten all about it. There ensued a big panic as he had to rush around getting the materials together and ended up leaving the room in his attempts to do so. It was being forgotten that was the issue and not only really upset me but enraged me (this being my particular pattern of anger, anything that negates or dismisses or diminishes me pushes every button I have.)

I then brought it up the next session, having stewed over it all week and told him how upset about it I'd been, and the response I got was 'people forget'. End of. Hm. Cue LL flip out.

Now this is in isolation and to balance this negative picture I need to say that my T is, so far, very good at hearing me criticize and complain to him, about what he says and does. But he doesn't validate or empathize with my anger and that just makes me even angrier!

There are many instances where he's mightily pissed me off, most of them quite minor and low level stuff, all of them to do with me needing and wanting and not getting. All sorts of things tied up in this, so I'm really interested to hear of other's experiences with anger in therapy.

Thanks again (((((((( IG ))))))))))