Thanks Stopdog. You've expressed my ongoing complaint beautifully in that first line - I'm ALWAYS saying to T that he's not listening to me, he doesn't understand, he hasn't heard me, it's like a litany. And this being definitely part of my pattern, not being heard or understood (apart from that fact that that makes me endlessly repeat myself under the misguided belief that if only I say it often enough or in enough different variations maybe the other will finally get it, hear it, understand it) really really enrages me. Like you I often leave sessions in a frustrated rage, impotent and powerless.

How do you manage to keep seeing this T when she makes you so angry, my immediate response every time my T pisses me off is to want to quit, I just find it so difficult to imagine continuing with someone who makes me so angry, instant disconnect and loss of respect and trust etc etc. It's a problem.