If the woman does not listen or understand what I am telling her, then, for me, I would have no basis for believing anything she says. Why would I trust she knew how to push or what she was talking about in relation to me if she did not listen to me first? IF the woman is not listening or understanding me - then she is just guessing or playing around at me. And I have no use for being played with or guessed at in that way.
For me, it helped when she just stopped talking. Then it was not so obvious she did not have a clue about me and I never found what she said useful in the first place. But it is not unuseful to have someone who does not care and who will not interfere to tell things to that I would not tell real people in my life.