I have spent the last 48 hours helping a friend of mine come up with a plan to leave her abusive husband. Mostly verbal though he has made physical threats. We have things mostly sorted out but I am keeping an eye on her.

I am a survivor of childhood abuse, and it is hitting me hard. Much harder than I expected. I have been having flashbacks. My anxiety is rambed up, I want to hide under the covers and cry for the next three days.

So, 2 questions, how do I get over myself since this is not about me and I want be helpful to her instead a useless pile of goo? And, Do you have any resources I can give her? I passed on a few and will be researching sime more tomorrow but any additional help would be greatly appreciated.