There is so much that goes into "finding someone." I worked out like a mad man and looked darn good for a number of years. I met some really bad chicks over those years and it turned me off to dating completely. That was a 10 year period. I finally quit working out, starting eating pizza each week and said who gives ***. Life was slowly better and I loved just bumping into people for coffee and talk. Most often looks has little to do with it. It is all about your confidence, rate of speech and how appealing your soul is. If you sound selfish, angry, hyper,nercous this can play a part in the initial meeting.