When the dust settles, perhaps you AND husband, jointly, can write notes to the lost friends quickly explaining away the recent actions and offering an olive branch. If you make a card by hand (michaels offers supplies and classes on making cards), the added touch will hopefully melt their hearts. Alternatively, Papyrus cards sold at Target and wonderfully original cards sold at world market cost plus provide that touch of thoughtfulness without handmaking. It is an era of electronics in which the human touch of a special snailmailed card is appreciated. I have mended several relationships this way. It didn't work for all, but worked for most.