Thank you all very much – your responses are helping me feel better.

FKM – your story is very encouraging. I could see my therapist being wise - not actually withdrawn - in that way. Were you aware of his method at the time, or did you also initially experience his not reaching out as actively as a perplexing withdrawal? Did you discuss what you felt with him at the time?

CE – the discrepancy in reaching is a good way to describe it. That’s how I’ve been feeling lately, and it’s quite different from what I perceive to be our usual equal reaching or, in my most depressed moments, his reaching more. I'm sorry your similar experience hurt you.

What all of your responses show me is that I don't think I'm ready to be the one to reach more. That's quite revealing. And will be interesting to talk about next week.