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Originally Posted by growlycat
It is concerning that you feel unheard most of the time. T may not be a good "fit" for you.
However, getting angry at T does happen. I get miffed when my CBT T is 5 min late but I haven't said anything.
Same thing when he forgets things, both important and not so important.
You have voiced your concerns and he hasn't adapted---have you considered a different T?
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Thanks Growlycat. Unfortunately this T is the very last on my original very long list of Ts to see. I know in advance that I will not find someone who is a better fit, having worked my way through a few dozen over the years already.
I am pretty much of the mind that T doing/saying things that really wind me up is something I probably need to 'work through' rather than run away from (which is what I've tended to have to do, having been unable to previously find a T who was capable of dealing with anger).
I'd love to find a T who is a better fit, that would mean I might actually get some of what I've been looking for, wanting and needing - but that's not going to happen so for now I'm sticking with this one and hoping that it's going to be helpful. I do wish he'd buck up his attitude and ideas though
Just hoped that there might have been others on here who experienced something similar and persevered to breakthrough to some sort of healing through the hostile dynamics. I can't be the only one who has anger as the surfacing issue surely?
