I was talking to LCM today. If you recall from my previous post about having fake conversations with her in my mind, I had one that was fairly upsetting because it brought up something really distressing for me to realize. I told LCM about it. Aside from what the content was, she said was really impressed with how accurate the responses I had her give to me. She said she would have responded to everything I asked in the hypothetical conversation in the exact same way... except I made one mistake. She said therapists aren't supposed to ask "why". They can ask it in a different way, but using the word "why" in the way that I had her respond to me wouldn't be good. I asked her why. She laughed and said "of course you'd ask me why?"
"Well I'm not a therapist so I can ask that". She didn't answer it and got me back on the topic.

Does anyone know why the word "why" isn't good? I'm just curious. LCM admitted to making that mistake a lot. I'm just wondering why asking me "why would that bother you" vs "how would that affect you" or "what about that would make you feel uncomfortable" would have a different impact because I'd answer all of those questions the same way.

I'm sorry about being vague about the fake conversation because I know if I wrote about it directly, this whole post would be easier to follow, but I have a very hard time talking about it. It made me cry for hours originally and made me cry again when I told LCM about it on the phone tonight.