Mouse thanks, and you are right on in what you're saying. That's exactly what seems to go on in all my therapies, the T just isn't getting me. Current T is aware that that's my complaint and I'm not slow to point out both that and when he's not getting me. But he doesn't seem particularly interested in finding out what it is he's not getting (unlike your T by the sound of it.)

And yeah, I talk to him about this, constantly . I've been banging on about wanting to deal with my angry feelings and what I'm not getting that I need and want, almost since our first session. His responses are really wishy washy, he never seems to respond directly to anything to do with my anger, and generally I find I'm being steered into other directions (he is focusing more on what he considers the 'true' cause of the anger, that is underlying hurt etc - which is possibly correct, but whatever underlying stuff there might be is totally inaccessible until the anger which it inspires is worked through first.)

Like most therapists, he's ignoring what I'm presenting and (wrongly) trying to get to what he thinks is behind it. With the result that I'm being invalidated and dismissed and feeling like I'm always being opposed doubted unheard and worse, seen as in the wrong.

Sorry got a bit carried away there, have been thinking more and more about the whole anger issue and seeing just how lacking my T is in this situation. I get so tired of going into therapy with the same complaints the same criticisms the same pointless and unheard explanations about what I need and want