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Originally Posted by Curupira
I have spent the last 48 hours helping a friend of mine come up with a plan to leave her abusive husband. Mostly verbal though he has made physical threats. We have things mostly sorted out but I am keeping an eye on her.
I am a survivor of childhood abuse, and it is hitting me hard. Much harder than I expected. I have been having flashbacks. My anxiety is rambed up, I want to hide under the covers and cry for the next three days.
So, 2 questions, how do I get over myself since this is not about me and I want be helpful to her instead a useless pile of goo? And, Do you have any resources I can give her? I passed on a few and will be researching sime more tomorrow but any additional help would be greatly appreciated.
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Well if you were triggered and it brought up all this stuff then I would say it is partly about you. How can you process this stuff that has come up in a healthy way so you can let some of it go? Therapy, journaling....I do not know. I don't think you should discount what you are going through though.
I am very sorry she went back and I am sure it is very frustrating for you. I have seen it over and over as well being around Alanon for so many years. Hopefully she will still lean on you and reach out for other support so she can grow and find the strength to leave.