So, I didn't grow up as a believer or in the church. And so everything about it holds this kind of newness and promise to me. And so much of it is so shocking -- just picking up a Bible and seeing the wealth of human experience that is captured within.

The Book of Psalms has some great lines on anger. I think it teaches us that it is OK to feel intense emotion.

Check out this prayer, from the third psalm:

"Arise, Lord! Deliver me, my God! Strike all my enemies on the jaw; break the teeth of the wicked."

Isn't that great? This guy (King David) is basically praying for revenge on his enemies. I often feel this angry because of abuse and it helps to just pray about the anger, and acknowledge that I wish harm upon another human being. Is that healthy? Well, who cares? It is human and God knows it.

Alternatively, when I'm feeling judged or outcast, I think about Jesus and how he had dinner with the prostitutes and tax collectors. (At the time, those who collected taxes for the Roman Emperor were considered the scourge of society. As lowly and despicable as traitors and prostitutes.)

And the well-to-do righteous men in town were shocked and outraged. Here was this Jesus guy eating dinner with the low lifes.

And then Jesus had the nerve to tell folks that, "the tax collectors and the prostitutes are entering the kingdom of God ahead of you."

He just turned everything on its head. He's like the crazy nastyass honey badger, lol, he does what he wants. (In the name of love.)

To the OP: I'm glad your T let her humanity show through to you and helped you with that self-disclosure.