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I think "cures" will only start when we start recognizing it as part culture. Anthropologists can tell you other cultures don't see various illnesses as illnesses. The culture defines what is a disease. That is not saying there aren't people that aren't sick in any culture. It is a spectrum so a severely depressed or autistic person is ill in every culture. You can not draw that line if you don't acknowledge what is really happening.
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Well I will have to agree with you there. Our culture does not accept, embrace, and honor suffering and illness as it should.
It is a natural human reaction to want to fix things when they see that something is wrong. Defining wrong in the human condition is not simple and straight forward as it is in an engineering problem. It is like my friend who offers all kinds of solutions to fix my depression when what I need is for them to accept me as I am depression and all.
I learned along time ago in Alanon is that we have this tendency to "fix" people. It is often out of a selfish need and has nothing to do with helping the other person. The best way to help is to listen, to validate, to relate to, to share your own experience and to not give unsolicited advice. People want to be accepted and validated not "fixed". But then we do want to be helped and "cured" ourselves. So the key is to seek out the healthiest people and healthiest ways to be helped. Maybe not cured. I have no doubt I will never be cured. That I have to learn to live with and manage my disease and accept it. It may however be different for my daughter who knows.