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Originally Posted by Yearning0723
Maybe...old T suggested that, actually. And maybe that's true. But it would feel too much like giving up.
I guess what I want in a T now is different. With old T, I just wanted to solve my issues. At this point, I still want that, but I also just want to feel cared about and to have someone who will help me sit with my feelings instead of shaming me for them and who will be there for me and be understanding and supportive and who will help me learn to just accept certain parts of myself instead of obsessively analyzing them...
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And how do you intend to get that if you don't give your new T the chance to?
Unless you are prepared to drop the defenses just enough to allow a T to work with you, then you are spending an awful lot of money and time for what?
It's not easy, i know that. But right now you are creating an impasse where your new T can't maneuver in a way that will help you or create trust.