I know that both LCM and school T definitely have asked me "why" before. I ask myself why all the time. I think it is a good question and I also think that the other people on the thread had some very valid points because in the context of how I used "why", if could have come across as very accusatory and judgmental.

I feel like it might be a question to be careful with with is essentially what LCM said last night. Like in the hypothetical question I asked myself, wording it differently might be beneficial but it didn't matter because I didn't notice. It probably also is something T's might have to use on a case by case basis. I imagine it can be more or less helpful to some people than others and maybe even offensive or harsh to other people.

I feel like it is another one of those minor semantics games that makes a world of difference. The issue with semantics is that different words feel different to different people. I've run into this a lot on other threads in another forum on PC where words just gave a slightly different meaning to everyone that reads it and no one hesitates to point it out. Language is interesting because it manages to be universal to people sharing a common language and yet completely personal and subjective at the same time and I can't think of many things that do that.

I guess that's just something T's have to be really super attentive to. I curse a lot and I remember school T adjusting to match my language and cursing more when we were just getting started working together. Which is awkward/kinda cute because she is one of those people that doesn't curse with a natural inflection making it sound really forced.

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