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Originally Posted by Lauliza
I'm in school for counseling psychology and they train you not to ask "why" because to some people it sounds judgemental. They're more liekly to say, "tell me about that", "can you elaborate", etc. Therapists are trained a lot in proper wording of questions or statements. Before school I had no real idea how much the same basic conversation in meaning but with different wording will generate very different responses. Its useful in everyday life too.
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I agree with this. T doesn't usually ask me why. If I tell her i'm feeling a certain way she asks me to "tell her more about that" or "explain what I mean by" etc. The one time she asked me why, was about why I chose to show her something private and it did put me on the defense and made me feel wrong for showing her. I don't think that was her intention, but it made me feel "shame" and so I can see why they would try to avoid that word if possible.