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Originally Posted by pleasepleasehelp
im 23 and have been in a 4yr relationship with my gf. pretty much a roller coaster ride. she cheated on me a yr into the relationship and i took her back. for the next 2 yrs things were a little better and i was starting to trust her. i then hear from ppl and find evidence in her phone that somewhat points to her cheating again, this was about 6 months ago.
also she lived with me for the whole first 3 yrs of the realtionship and this last year she only sleeps at my house a few nights a week and i constantly worry about what she is doing.....
heres my huge dilemma, im somewhat happy when were hanging out(when were not fighting), but i feel like if i end the relationship i will NEVER find anyone else.
i have BAD anti-social problems...and its hard to tell my therapist everything thats going on
pleasepleasehelp
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the next time she comes over you might want to sit her down and express your feelings and fears, let her know you love her and explain the pain and anxiety she is causing you. you're going to want out find out how she feels about the relationship going forward and find out if you guys are on the same
page.it might be uncomfortable but at some point you are going to have to ask her if she still wants to be with you anymore ( i know that sounds terrifying..what if she says no..) but it's better that you find out the truth now so you can begin healing if she doesn't, it's only gonna be worse if it gets dragged out! good luck
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