Welcome kindergirl!
Do you ever get to the point where you can just "put the lid " back on and leave it all where it belongs.
Oh how I wish I could say, yup...almost there, stuffing it back in as we speak.
But once the lid blows and it spills out, you need help wiping up the mess and some messes are bigger than others.
But it WILL get better. It really will.
We're here to listen if that helps at all.