I'm SO glad you finally cleared everything up with her. It sounds like the necessary communication between you two finally took place. I also think it is cool that she double checked on your comfort level with touch now that she is aware of the transference, but is still willing to keep doing it if you are okay with it. That's great! It really keeps the comfort alive. We all have read the stories that ended in termination over this type of transference and that it could go terribly wrong. More T's should be this accepting of it and validating.

It's good to have an explanation of why she is so blunt with you in her word choices and....unique metaphors? she sometimes uses. lol It makes perfect sense that she just feels it is the best communication for you two. Does it feel better now that you understand the reasoning behind certain things she has said? I know you were feeling a lot of conflict earlier this week.

I'm sorry for the painful aspect of the situation though. I would imagine it is a tough feeling. I have only truly experienced maternal transference and wanting T to take care of me and THAT was painful. She is very nurturing but in the end to realize she will never be my mom (or rather, my mom will never be like HER) is very painful. I can't imagine how romantic feelings must feel. It is always an awful feeling to want someone you can't have and even more so once it is confirmed you can't have them.