Inny,

You deserved so much better as a child. It wasn't your fault. You were only a child. You were only a child. You were only a child.

When we are abused as children, we learn to push people away to stay safe. We learn to do things to harm ourselves to try to hide our pain, while also hoping somene will notice how much we have been hurt and give us the help we are too afraid to ask for. As we grow, these things no longer helps us. We need now to grow to love ourselves and create safe relationships and lives of wholeness, love and peace that we really do deserve.

Whatever dysfunction we developed as abused children, and carry with us into adulthood, we have the right to heal and restore ourselves and we deserve help. If you can see your behaviors for why you have them, you can move to a truly healing process. It is not your fault you ended up here. But you can -- and you deserve -- to heal from your past.

I can see some very important things in you in what you have written since joining this site. I see you trying to share your pain, and that is important to do in order to heal. And just as important, I have seen you begin to claim a new life for yourself, one of dignity and companionship among those who understand what you have been through. You really deserve that, Inny.

I believe that together, we can restore our lives.

mtd