HG I know how u feel. I learned growing up everything came at a price. I learned never to accept gifts because I didn't want to learn what it cost me. My father held everything over my head. He gifted me a computer and flight tickets to go to college. He to this day would hold it over my head saying I owe him for those gifts.

I do not speak to him and haven't for yrs. my partners mother gives me gifts for bday and Xmas, but she never expects anything in return. It is uncomfortable for me to accept these but they do not let me refuse nor do they expect anything from me. It took 28 yrs for me to learn there are some good ppl in this world.