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Old Apr 04, 2014, 08:23 AM
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Originally Posted by Amelia112 View Post
"Thanks for sharing your experience. Hopefully people will realize it does happen, Post Therapy Relationships. And more importantly, no big deal re boundaries."

Here it goes away from the subjective, personal experience into something broader. (No big deal re boundaries)
This invites me to take part in this conversation to offer my point of view, as she says Hopefully people will realize...'
And my point of view is that this can not stand alone as a statement for everyone, because the truth is, MANY therapists DO think there is a problem regarding boundaries.
Yes, these post-therapy relationships do happen - that is a fact. But it is also a fact that different T's have a very clear boundary here. And for very good reasons.

Later, GTGT says:
"What I grapple with is the fact that so many on this board say it's wrong, unethical damaging, etc; group think. Granted things can go wrong; such is life. When therapy is terminated usually one has grown and know how to deal with life issues, and get help from others if need be. Even those that have attachment disorder or BPD.".
This is a generalization implying that the impression most posters have regarding post therapy friendships is incorrect. There may not be an APA guideline about it, but most therapists have such policies in place anyway and for good reason. The reality is that things can go wrong more often than not, and policies are created based on that fact. Many clients would put too much stock into this idea and things could suddenly go very wrong (as every person's expectation is different). If there is an exception to the rule then there is nothing wrong with that, but shouldnt be considered the norm. True friendships are often unexpected or pleasant surprises, not something we fantasize about and long for. And I thinks its worth addressing that many patients are not at all equipped to deal with the possible fall out if something doen't go as expected, especially those with personality disorders and attachment issues. This can actually create a very dangerous situation and shouldn't be minimized.
Thanks for this!
AmysJourney