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Originally Posted by Asiablue
I feel like if i was in genuine crisis i'd feel better about calling. But a lot of the time i just feel really awful and it helps to speak to her. She said if i feel really crappy to call, but i don't want to become too dependent. And that's a real risk for me i feel.
There's a real push/pull between allowing interdependence (healthy) and being super independent just to prove that i can be (unhealthy) and i just have no middle ground.. or so it feels. I have no idea how to get the balance right.
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If I'm feeling really crappy, I don't hesitate to call him. That is what he is there for. That isn't being dependent; that's just using my resources as far as I see it. I figure if my ability to deal isn't working despite my best efforts to utilize my skills and strengths, then going to T for input and help IS the healthy choice. I'm just at a stage where I generally can manage most things on my own now. I certainly wasn't always in this place. Remember we are all in different stages with varying needs, and that's okay.