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Originally Posted by pegasus
http://forums.psychcentral.com/rules...%22-posts.html
It's a rule that was brought in for very good reasons. The person doing the post is upset and possibly crying out for help and does a post stating that they are leaving. This then can upset a whole community. People get triggered and think that they are the reason the person has decided to leave. Often the person who decides to leave then comes back under a new username and there can in deed be a cycle of coming and going. Yes we are human beings and form attachments here.
I do think sending PMs to friends is the way to go...
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I have to agree. It is a form of tough love but more than that I am new here and already I see a see many posts of just repeated whining and people who appear to be abusing the kindness and long winded support messages only to ignore what several members wrote to aid, support or just cheer them up. I have seen this behavior in real life and is part of why I am fired from my job right now. There was a girl in another department at work who loved to whine "poor me", "no one knows how hard I work". She would run to the male boss's office once or twice a day complaining or just shooting the bull. Now no one in the office can just go "hang out with the boss." But each time I got into any kind of trouble it was due to her complaints and many were just made up. To this day I will never know what or "if" she had something against me. Sadly I am out of a dream job, income and lost all my work buddies now. To her it was just refreshing to get her way for the umpteenth time since I had been there. She got 3 others fired on her whining. At another palce I worked there was a guy who every other day or so complained how "I am going to quit, "f" this place." and yet continued to work there. He had been there 2 years prior to me and after I got fired from there he was still, still saying the same old thing. These people, these mindsets make it rather difficult to heal ourselves and try to be better humans by being loving, supportive and caring.
Now none of what I am saying directly has anything to do with someone who is actually leaving and left a message. I am unclear as to what warnings they received or what behavior caused the warnings to be generated but have to imagine that there is more going on as there was no mention of anything aside form I"I got two warnings" and soon I will be banned so I am leaving.
That left me with the impression that the person writing this was in some kind of panic about something that they themselves were unwilling to change. I for one would have made a statement as "I contacted the admin. team and they have refused to accept any apology and are not willing to tell me what I am doing wrong. I feel this policy of "X" is unfair"
So, that's my 2 cents worth about an observation made by a new member.