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Originally Posted by LaborIntensive
That left me with the impression that the person writing this was in some kind of panic about something that they themselves were unwilling to change. I for one would have made a statement as "I contacted the admin. team and they have refused to accept any apology and are not willing to tell me what I am doing wrong. I feel this policy of "X" is unfair"
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You are obviously entitled to your opinion. Just please think about the idea that how you make generalizations and these really swift judgements may actually be detrimental to how you are able to interact and commiserate with people.
I'm saying that simply because not everyone has been able to learn and obtain the same coping skills- some of which are often more helpful than others in reducing distress- it doesn't mean they are unwilling to change or taking advantage or kindness or any of the other judgemental things that tend to get slapped on people when they are in distress.
Maybe they don't know how to cope with panic or distress, and they haven't recieved information or guidance in a way that they can process and utilize.
It's good to know that when you feel panicky and scared and like you have no one listening to you that you are able to have the presence of mind to make such statements as the example you gave- perhaps you could use that ability in such a way that you could help others to achieve the same. This could serve to be more helpful in the long run than just cutting people off.
I have been that person who seems completely unreasonable and like I'm not listening to anyone- it's because at that point, I literally can't until I am able to get back to base line or the panicky feeling subsides.
This is a result of the Pure OCD I experience. I take responsibility for myself, but only as far as I am actually able. If I am panicking to the point where I'm not making sense and I think everyone hates me? It's difficult to turn that feeling around when given the whole "tough love" deal. What I might actually need is an indication of unconditional acceptance. I don't personally experience a lot of that.
...just sharing my experience and perspective on the matter.