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Originally Posted by Lauliza
This is a generalization implying that the impression most posters have regarding post therapy friendships is incorrect. There may not be an APA guideline about it, but most therapists have such policies in place anyway and for good reason. The reality is that things can go wrong more often than not, and policies are created based on that fact. Many clients would put too much stock into this idea and things could suddenly go very wrong (as every person's expectation is different). If there is an exception to the rule then there is nothing wrong with that, but shouldnt be considered the norm. True friendships are often unexpected or pleasant surprises, not something we fantasize about and long for. And I thinks its worth addressing that many patients are not at all equipped to deal with the possible fall out if something doen't go as expected, especially those with personality disorders and attachment issues. This can actually create a very dangerous situation and shouldn't be minimized.
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"The reality is that things can go wrong more often than not, and policies are created based on that fact."
That statement contradicts the APA guidelines. I was not generalizing, I was merely pointing out that these relationships do exist. And as I explained in a subsequent post,
no big deal, meant it was a regular relationship to me, no different than any of my other friendships.
I also want to point out I was in therapy for humungous attachment issues that has since been resolved. Labeling stereotypes cause more harm than good. Who can or cannot have these after therapy relationships shouldn't be based on labels. Labels do more harm than good. Remember it is still taboo to - Love Your Client, let alone tell them you love them, especially if you have attachment issues or are BPD.