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Originally Posted by GoldenEyes
Hello, I am new here! I need some help with my daughter. My daughter has been in therapy for a few months now. She was resistant to go at first but now she has a very good relationship with her T. I'm very happy that she's making progress and talking to her T, but I feel left out. I feel like she tells her T everything and doesn't share anything with me  My daughter waits the whole week to tell her T something that happened rather than me her mother. I often find myself feeling jealous of the relationship my daughter and her therapist have. I also feel replaced. I was thinking about termination since my daughter is getting better but I think that would be wrong. I feel kinda hurt. I don't know what to do. Any advice would be helpful. |
Hi GoldenEyes,
nice to have you here! I am sorry you are hurt. and it must be so hard! Your daughter has someone she trusts deeply, she looks forward to see and whom she shares things with that she doesn't share with you. You say she has been in therapy for a few months now - that is not a very long time for therapy, but I can understand how it can seem like a LONG time for you.
You feel left out, afraid of being pushed to the side. I don't know how old your daughter is, or how your relationship was before she went to therapy. I am guessing your daughter is in her teens as you say you could terminate, which suggests she is a minor.
But it seems right now, the therapy is good for her. It's a great thing that she has someone who can help her and who she leans on - even though for right now it is not you. The jealousy is understandable but please remember, as harsh as it may sound, this is about your daughter and not you. And it is not meant as a bad thing. Please don't terminate out of jealousy, that could potentially damage a lot between you and your daughter because you might take something away from her that she feels is so important.
You say she is getting better - why don't you try to focus on that fact and try to be happy that this therapist has helped her get better? The more support you show her right now, the more acceptance and tolerance you show her - the more you can keep her close to you and trusting you. She is getting better - that is wonderful!!
Letting go or stepping aside is so hard.. but it's something you may need to learn right now. Have a little patience, perhaps in a little while she will get closer to you again. But please don't guilt her with your jealousy if possible, it could make thing worse for you.
And we are here for you if you have concerns or questions and need our support..
Love, Amelia