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Originally Posted by Withered-Rose79
Thanks for the advice. You both have valid points. I wish my emotions would get off of this rollercoaster long enough for me to make this decision. One minute I can't live without him and the next minute I can't stand the sight of him. Sighhh....
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This is all you need to keep reading, over and over.
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I feel torn between wanting my bf (age 46) to move out and wanting him to stay. I love him deeply and I have no doubt that he loves me too. He loves me in spite of my BPD. He promises he will never leave me and I believe him. Being with him relieves my fear of abandonment and of being alone. The relationship brings me a sense of comfort and security that helps to keep me grounded and focused. He helps me around the house, helps with my kids, helps pay the bills, and is just there for me in general. He holds me when I’m upset, gives me space when I want to be alone and is beside me when I wake up with nightmares. He tolerates my never ending mood swings, my outbursts of rage and my sometimes cold, hateful words. All of that being said, he is struggling with his own undiagnosed mental health issues, and I think we feed off of each other’s negativity.
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He may need to have therapy, see a psychologist. I wish you both luck in this and of course the tact needed to discuss the subject openly.