I've often been lonely because I don't bond the way other people do or enjoy the same types of socializing. However, I've found exceptions. Talking to anyone at all and expecting a connection won't work, but especially online if I make a point of being genuine I can attract the attention of people who communicate the same way and enjoy the things that make me feel connected to others.

Surface conversations are really only enjoyable if I'm in a playful mood, and nice words from strangers often make no difference to me because they're in no position to know what kind of person I am. I really enjoy the mental connection of debating or exploring a topic with someone unusual who isn't going to be offended.