Hi GoldenEyes. Your post caught my eye because for a very long time, I was your daughter and my mom hated my therapist. All it did was drive my mom and I further apart. As I got older, I found other people in whom I could trust (when I no longer had my therapist) and confided in -- people I worked for or with, coaches, etc. I trusted these people very much, and once again, my mom was incredibly jealous. At one point she threatened to make me quit a sport because of my relationship with my coach, she was that jealous.

All my mom's frustration, jealousy, and hurt did was push us farther apart. I would have LOVED for my mom to comment how she noticed I seemed happier, or to come to one of my events and watch me do well. Instead, she chose to complain and tell me that I loved my coaches better than her. That in turn made me feel so guilty, and so frustrated with her that I felt bad about myself.

This suggestion from Amelia is a wonderful one, and would have been very helpful had my mother gone that route.

Sierra also had some very good pointers. I'd like to suggest that maybe you find a therapist yourself, so you have someone to confide in, if you feel like the relationship your daughter has developed with her therapist is hurting yours. It might be nice for you to have an opportunity to explore some of the concerns you have, and some of the reasons you're struggling with your daughter's relationship.

Lastly, I encourage you not to terminate your daughter's therapy. Termination is a decision best made between the client and therapist, and it would be very empowering for your daughter to get to decide when she's done. Oftentimes things are going better because we have that weekly outlet, and if it is removed, things may decline again.