Something similar happened to me too, so I'll share my experience. I basically said to my T "I know you can't care about me that much. I'm just a part of your job." She didn't directly answer, but said "but it's not like I pump gas for a living. I think this is really meaningful work." She said more than that, but that's the gist essentially. It made me realize that yes, I am "just" her job. But that doesn't necessarily have to be a bad thing. I am a meaningful part of her life. A person's career is an important part of finding meaning in life, and you offer that for your T. I hope that helps somewhat. I think your T still cares. Though I do understand the need for her to care on a personal level. It still hurts me too, even if what she said softened the blow. I think the way your T said it was insensitive and harsh, and she should have worded it better. I would definitely take that hard too, and I don't think she had a right to say it was your fault for getting upset.