I am sorry your son is having such a hard time. I am sorry that it is so hard on you. The military can be pretty tough and sometimes feel very unfair (I know, I am a military wife myself).

I am not sure if this helps any but, when I feel overwhelmed and like the world is jsut a terrible place, I narrow my focus. I think about what can I do in my little corner of the world. Sometimes it is helpting friend through a hard time and sometimes it is just enjoying my daughter's smile.