You know I seem to have an awful lot of synchronicity in my life...just posted this mirror link and the chapter I started in the mental trash book is about distorted mirrors. The idea is that we rarely know what we are how strong how smart how kind etc...we rely on other peoples perceptions of us in order to make that determination but often people aren't really accurate in their judgements so we end up with the wrong ideas about ourselves. So the idea is that the reflection of yourself that the people surrounding you give you is distorted like looking in a broken mirror...

So if you think you are shy it's probably because someone told you that you were shy at some point and then you incorporated that and perhaps became more shy because of it...