I don't think I would want my therapist to just accept my endless whining and complaining. It wouldn't make a good fit for me if my therapist would enable me to stay in my whining "as long as it takes". Also, my therapist has the duty to assess my progress and can make the decision to terminate me if I am not taking part in the work or if she feels I am not ready to do the work. There are ethical guidelines also about this. So my therapist is not just there to listen and accept everything I throw at her, she is there to guide me, help me see things that I may not necessarily see myself. And I needed this tough love a few times in therapy and I know feel, apart from a few deeper issues a completely different person. And we should also remember we are talking about extreme cases here. My friend is an extreme case and I am extremely patient, but it drains thee life out of me. And there are simple things that would help her instantly. But she feels she gets more attention with her whining and she is losing all of her friends. And then that makes her even more stuck in her misery. I was like her once and gosh, I really am thankful for a couple of tough therapists today!

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