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Originally Posted by Yearning0723
I guess my question is, how would a T know if someone just likes to complain or if that complaining is masking all this pain that they just can't access, and maybe won't be able to access until they learn to trust the T more, and the T telling them to stop complaining would destroy that trust that needs to be built?
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I assume that a therapist would spend enough time with that client getting to know them, finding out how they think and feel and their inner working, and then spend time finding out what they need to feel better, to enhance their lives, and then try to support them in doing that.
After all that, i'd imagine they could make a fairly accurate summation in whther the client is ready to access the pain, whether it's a problem of trust or whether the client just doesn't want to "go there".
And the article is suggesting HOW to work with these types of clients not how to get rid of them. It's giving suggestions how to get below the presenting complaining and to what's really at the core.