If you tell too many people, it could wind up defining who you are. Do you want to known as the person who was abused as a child, or the person who is bright, interesting, and a good person? I know it's tough and you want people to understand what you went through, but I'd be real careful as to who I told. People may feel sorry for you, but along with pity comes a lack of respect. Other people may just not want to hear about it. You may get a comment like, "we all think we were abused by our parents."