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Originally Posted by winter4me
Oh boy...
I grew up in a house where crying was a weakness---whoever cried first lost.
It was simply understood, never spoken.
So, I am someone who wishes she could cry more often and normally...
Crying, like laughing, is an appropriate response to sadness...
It can get out of hand...like inappropriate humor/laughter...----try not to be fearful.
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I also was not allowed to cry/showing any positive emotion would be taken away so I learned to keep it all in.
Now I when I try to communicate my point emotions come up and can get in the way. I cry when talking to my partner who sees it as weakness but It is not a weakness, I am passionate person working on my emotions and have learned to bring myself back to the moment.
I am still learning to allow the appropriate/ ways /ect...
I can't cry a river for every tear held in the past but I can ask myself why is this emotional response is coming out now?
I think recognizing in the emotional moment helps then I can come back to the discussion with a stable mind.
I also use laughter when talking with someone who understands that if we cry because of all our pains and sorrows we would be crying all the time and thats not living a healthy life. There is a time and season for everything try to enjoy the gamut of possible emotions.
H.