Petra, I am having that same experience with a friend. Quite literally, she has been having issues with her husband for the last 9 years. Three years ago, she kicked him out, but then let him move back in. She complains about him all the time, but rejects any offer of help or suggestions. I'm an attorney and even offered to do the divorce for her. However, when I try to discuss any issue I have with her, she doesn't seem at all interested. I think that is where my T thought I was headed with my husband issues.